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Gifts for a Sub
Shopping for your sub, or for yourself as one? This guide covers gifts that honour the trust in a D/s relationship. Some are for scenes, some are for everyday reminders, and some are for the gentle care that comes afterwards. Good aftercare matters as much as the play itself, so we have included a few comfort picks too.
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- Top PickRegulation
Discreet Day Collar
A slim leather or steel collar that reads as jewellery to everyone else and means something special to the two of you.
- Extreme Restraints
Locking Play Collar with Lead
A sturdy collar with an O-ring and matching lead for scenes. A classic symbol of ownership and devotion.
- Bondara
Padded Kneeling Cushion
Kneeling is easier on the body with proper support. A thoughtful gift that shows you care about comfort as well as control.
- BestsellerLovehoney
Remote-Control Wearable Vibe
Hand the remote to their Dom and let them decide when. A favourite for tease and denial, at home or out.
- Regulation
Leather Wrist Cuffs
Padded, lockable cuffs that can be worn for a whole scene. Comfortable enough that the focus stays on the moment.
- Extreme Restraints
Chastity Device
Locking chastity for denial play, with sizing options for a secure fit. Agree on how long and who holds the key first.
- Regulation
Posture Collar
A taller, stiffer collar that keeps the chin lifted and the head held high. Wear it for short periods to begin with.
- AftercareLovehoney
Massage Candle
Melts into warm, skin-safe oil for a slow aftercare massage. A gentle way to reconnect after an intense scene.
- Bondara
Soothing Aftercare Balm
A cooling balm for skin that has been paddled, flogged or restrained. Every sub's toy bag should have one.
- AftercareAmazon UK
Weighted Throw Blanket
A heavy, soft blanket for wrapping up in after a scene. Many subs find the weight calming during the comedown.